Livin’ the Gorean Life

When i first heard about BDSM and joined, a Dom came forward to be my mentor. i still talk to Him and His advice has been invaluable in my journey. One of the things He told me to do was to look up what ‘Gorean lifestyle’ is. He didn’t think it was what i wanted to be a part of, but i am very happy He told me to look it up, because i didn’t even know it existed, and while i’m not judging people who do anything the Gorean way, i did learn that it’s not my thing.

What is the Gorean lifestyle?

The Gorean lifestyle came from Gor science fiction novels written by John Norman. The Gor books had another type of planet (from what i understand, though the wiki says ‘fictional counter-earth’) and basically the lifestyle of the aliens on this planet was referred to as ‘Gorean.’ On this planet, it is perfectly fine to have a slave, and in fact, it’s perfectly fine to have a sexual relationship with your slave. This is compared to a M/s relationship. People who participate in the Gorean lifestyle are participating in the lifestyle of the race that lives on Gor. i’m going to focus on the BDSM part of the Gorean lifestyle, but i’d like to put out there that the wiki has some info on the non-sexual parts of it, owning a slave is not mandatory to be a part of this lifestyle. If you’re interested, you should click the link at the bottom of this post : )

The idea behind Gorean slaves and Gorean Masters is an extreme version of 24/7. These slaves live in high protocol that rarely, if ever, lets up. The lifestyle is largely dictated by the Gor books, meaning that punishments, positions, and rules are taken from the books, therefore, most Goreans are practicing identical or very similar versions of M/s. i can see how it would be nice to be on the same page with that large of a group of people. The only thing that i think wouldn’t be very much fun is that high protocol. i want to be able to joke around with my Dom in a largely free form relationship. Of course, i’m not rejecting all protocol. i would likely still follow direct orders and serve my Dom. i don’t think i would enjoy every little thing being as strict as i’m getting from reading these websites!!

What are some Gorean M/s customs?

There are basic rules that i found on several sites for slaves. Here they are:

1)  All Freepersons are to be addressed as either Master or Mistress.
2 ) Serve EVERY Master or Mistress as if your life, or your smooth flesh depends on it for it does. A lash is quick in the hand of a Free, so is a boot into the sleen pits…
3 ) While a Freeperson may not always be right, they are, by definition, never WRONG. Slaves always have the last word in any disagreement…the words “Yes Master”…
4 ) Jealousy and possessiveness have killed more slaves then disobedience, so has having an attitude…you’re a slave, a bondmaid, REMEMBER your place.
5 ) Slaves do not use the first person pronoun. There is not “I,” “me” or “mine” in a slaves vocabulary.
6 ) Learning to be pleasing and skilled slave/bondmaid is key. Learn to show excitement and to enjoy the freedoms that come with being enslaved. You are not robots or puppets. You are a collared slave, so enjoy and show as such.
7 ) Your collar carries the honor of your Owner. Your attitude can make it as light as a feather or as heavy as a mountain.
8 ) If there are none requiring service, use the time to clean, cook, bake and do the chores associated with day to day workings. Don’t be lazy.
9 ) Slaves possess nothing not given to them by their owner, including their name. What is given, can be taken away. If you are entrusted to carry a name for an owner, or silks, or jewelry, remember that these can be removed as easily as they were given.
10 ) The merest whim of your owner is your highest law. And lawbreakers are punished.

As i said, it was on several websites, so this is the general idea of the rules involved with being a Gorean slave. On top of this, there are slave positions ( that every slave is supposed to learn.

Punishments are also dictated by the books, and even names come from the books!

So, while this lifestyle isn’t for me, it’s very very strict, which i can totally understand someone wanting. If you’re interested, google it! : ) here are the sources i got my information from!

Rules for Gorean slaves, and some punishments are on here as well.

Gorean slave positions and descriptions of them

The wiki on the lifestyle in general, with a small shoutout to BDSM.

Moving on!!

Remember when i said i’d love to review sex toys?? An email i sent (yes, i did spell it right, but they did not!) was answered by a woman who works for a brand new program they’re working on. This program is geared toward bloggers, and it seems perfect for me!! This is super exciting for me and i’m really happy about it. i chose a toy to review on this blog, and i’ll have it either tomorrow or the day after. Yay!!! This means that i can add toy reviews to the blog, too!! Of course, i’m going to keep trying to keep this blog about BDSM, but i would like to expand it to sexuality, life, and relationships as well, because i think it would be a lot more interesting for you (the reader!) than sitting here reading what i have to say on the same topic every day. Plus, i’m going to run out of topics at some point, too!

Also, i’d like to put some links to interesting articles that went through my AOL news daily at the end of my blog. i think that it would be fun to share my links with my friends that aren’t on my messenger! : ) If you don’t like the links, feel free to complain here and this will be the last post that they’re on : ) sound good??

In the News

Apparently, the heir to the McDonald’s empire got robbed. The only question is, if he’s the heir, why is it that nobody who knows the McDonalds know him? Hmm…. (

You’ve probably heard about the  11 Russian spies who were arrested (some not too far from where i live!!) but do you really know anything about them? i found this interesting because they were such normal people. (

Also, Donald Duck got caught driving drunk. (

Kobayashi might not be going to the hot dog eating contest!! i would be quite disappointed if this actually happens. i’m just sayin’. (

Lastly, it looks like genetically engineered fish isn’t too far from being approved by the FDA, but is it actually as terrible as it seems? (

That’s all i have to say today, thanks for dealing with the super long post!



3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Littlekitten
    Jul 05, 2010 @ 05:22:13

    Ah good old gorean me and my master live the gorean life and am enjoy every min I spend with my Master sorry I didn’t into my self I was given the name kitten and have been living under gor for 2 years today my master and I don’t live together yet but we spend time together, I have been in his kollar for 1 1/2


    • curioussub
      Jul 06, 2010 @ 21:17:22

      i’m so glad it works out for you!! : ) i can definitely see the good points of it, myself! Besides the strict parts not being for me, i bet i would keep getting the positions wrong!! i’m not sure how a Gorean Master would handle me. i may be a little too rambunctious for that!! : P you must be very patient and have great memory!!


  2. Cis
    Oct 28, 2015 @ 05:31:06

    Hi! You may wish to update your links. The D/s Garden is now at


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